Essential Traveling Items

I pack a fresh bag each time I'm going to an incall, and try to show off my favorite new outfit or lipstick shade. The styles and colors may change with the season. There is the standard toothbrush and toiletries, these are not unique to any bag, but there are a few items that I consider essential to ply my trade and feel at my sexiest.

-Kimono. Terry cloth robes are warm, but they are too bulky for me.  I enjoy the wide sleeves and breeziness of the fabric. If I was limited to a single piece of clothing, this would be it.

-Condoms & Lube. This probably goes without saying, I couldn't do very much without them. I like to bring a variety of sizes, flavored & unflavored. Liquid Silk is my favorite brand of lube--everything is more fun with lube! What's great about this one too, is it's very neutral in flavor and doesn't get tacky.

-Toys. I have a slowly growing collection of toys, for a variety of play. These are usually brought out only in longer sessions or for doubles. However, I always have them in case of a special request!

-Stockings. I dress pretty casual out in public, so dressing up for a private date is a special thing for me. As I've said before, stockings just feel sexy.

-Fresh fruit & healthy snacks. I love most fruit and vegetables, as long as they are fresh. And it so much better than eating take out or pizza while I am kitchen-less. I'm on the look out for  honey crisp apples this season, and filling up on plums, peaches and blueberries in the meantime.

Stockings

It's been a luxuriously long week off for me, much of the time spend visiting with an old college friend.  It was his first time in the city, and almost five years since we'd seen each other. I do love playing the tour guide and sharing my love for my city. I even visited a church without bursting into flames!

I try to take regular times off each month, but by the end, I'm always so bored that I want to jump straight back into taking appointments again. I did find some time to take more pictures. After getting several stockings in the mail, I wanted to show off my growing collection!

Cuban heels and seamed stockings are ever my favorite--there's something classic about them.  But this new pale pink pair is wonderful too!  I like how delicate and feminine they seem, and how they play off my pale skin. Tell me what you think!

Books

 After reading Obsidian Butterfly, I've decided I really like the Anita Blake character. It's somehow relaxing to read about someone with a more complicated love life and a more harrowing job than me! (I kid.) I just love women who kick ass, with their deadly grace.

With that finished, I've turned my mind to non-fiction and more intellectual reads. When I read, I like to go back and forth between fiction and non-fiction.

I just recently received Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys and it's become my hotel book. Picking my way through the stories when I have a few moments, it's great to read the stories of others.  Their stories are voices of encouragement and empowerment. Thank you for this book.  I'm combining this read with Starhawk's Truth or Dare: Encounters with Power, Authority and Mystery. It touches on issues of female empowerment, authority of self and other, magic and seeking enlightenment in shadow work--all topics that mix well with sex work.

I'm coming up to my 10th month, and look on my mostly positive experiences. And honestly, the more I do it, the more I look forward to doing more. I enjoy the polite, secret game that is played during a dinner. I like invoking that spirit of desire, the excitment of newness even in my regular clients. I enjoy playing the role of the courtesan, the brazen whore--the more I do, the more comfortable it comes.  I see myself doing this for some time, years, building a foundation of experience that will continue to build. I don't know how long the path will be, but I'm going to enjoy each step as I follow it where it leads.

Gifts

To be honest, I created a wish list on a whim, not really expecting anything. It was a real surprise and delight the first time I received a package! Shiny new purple butt beads to add to my growing toy collection. I let the anticipation build, and finally had to pull it out for some fun!

After some proper lubing, the beads slid in slow, my friend working them in slow. The taper is great, and as the balls grow larger, I can feel my clit throbbing, pussy aching for penetration. The next one feels almost too large, but it's the last one and it locks in place.  When he pushes inside, I can feel the toy rub against him and it's a short, wild ride to orgasm.  A great toy, thank you so much!

I also love my growing collection of stockings and lingerie. Pantyhose has it's purpose, but stockings just feel naughty. While dressed, it's one of those little sexy secrets, like lacy bras and panties under a t-shirt.

So, again, thanks to anyone who's given this harlot tribute. ;)

Temple of the Red Lotus

It's time for another post about my pet subject: sacred harlotry. Recently, I came across this site: Temple of the Red Lotus.  A temple of sacred sex in FL that has workshops and offers priestess training as a Qadishtu (another term for sacred harlot, although more specific.)

I like a lot of what they say, but when I compare it to the world of RB, it's a little plain, and just a little on the stuffy side.  If someone is really interested in the topic, there's much to learn, but I'm not sure I could run the same business using that terminology.

One of the best parts about this is the *fun* and a bit of glitz with naughtiness sprinkles. There's a spiritual aspect in serving and giving pleasure, but with that is providing a fun and entertaining experience. It's about finding that little something and enjoying the moment. Of course, there's the business parts of it too, but I don't find the sex to be business-like at all. I don't ever want it to be business-like. And as long as it stays fresh for me, I'll keep going.

Lights On, Eyes Open

In my early sexual life, I think I had my eye closed most of the time. It's most natural when faces are pressed closed; shutting out one sense hightens the others. When the world goes dark behind the eyelids, bodies melt together easily, lost in touch and taste.

But more and more, I've been keeping my eyes open to enjoy the show. Something about the newness of each unique experience--and faces. I love watching your faces! Seeing eyebrows furrow in concentration of the rhythm, to that moment of release and you are in total bliss. Yes, and the dreamy look when your face is stuffed with pussy. These looks are my cues and a gift to know how much I please you.

Sometimes, with the bed rocking, it seems like I'm in a boat on the ocean, the walls and ceiling bobbing back and forth. Dimmed lights bring a greater sense of secrecy and intrigue to these trysts, while candlelight always brings me into a sacred place.

of course, there are times when I can't help but close my eyes and lose myself and perhaps that makes watching all the sweeter.

Supply & Demand

My readers have probably noticed my pricing change, the long running recession special (will it end before or after the recession?)

while a higher price meant fewer clients, it also felt harder--those few clients *had to follow through, and I was always worried if I was getting enough business.  This is so much better.  I finally realize it would be better to go with the recession than work against it. By lowering my rate, I'm able to get more calls, which is actually less work for me.

There was a worry that in changing my rate structure would mean less money, or that I'd have to work so much more that I'd start to burn out, but the opposite has been the case.  Is it strange that lowering my rate has increased my sense of worth? Maybe in a capitalist/profit-driven model, yes. But for me, it's never been about making a quick buck, but about surviving and thriving.

I'm glad I stopped worrying about the image my price would reflect and have continued the special. All of my new clients have been really nice, and I feel more in control of my own business now. In a strange way, I like being more financially accessible to people...just my whorish nature, I guess!