Why Men Use Prostitutes

This article is about a BBC study done, interviewing 12 men about their habits and feelings behind the hobby. I found it an interesting but narrow article, as there aren't enough men interviewed for a true average sampling. What I didn't like was the highly misogynist tone taken, with one passage that stood out to me in particular.

From the article:

Others were clear that they paid for sex in order to be able to totally control the encounter, including Bob, who said, "Look, men pay for women because he can have whatever and whoever he wants. Lots of men go to prostitutes so they can do things to them that real women would not put up with."

Link to full article: http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2010/jan/15/why-men-use-prostitutes

So, according to Bob, escorts are not real women? Just what makes a woman "real" then? It sounds like only women who are restrictive and not sexually curious qualify. Perhaps it's different in the UK, but we all have our restrictions.

I, for one, have felt my femininity celebrated since starting down this path, and I hope I'm not the only one. I wouldn't do anything that I felt was truly degrading or dehumanizing--but this has more to do with the manner than the action. I have been flogged, tormented, and felt honored to give my submission. When eyes gaze and hands begin to roam, I am honored in my womanhood.

Yes, there have been instances when I felt reduced and degraded, and these men did not get past a phone call. I've got nothing against good kinky fun, and even a little objectification is okay when the sex object is appreciated for what it gives, but those who can't respect their fellow humans and see them as "less" in some way....I just can't get down with that.

Rules and Limits for Fetish

Are you are interested in exploring the edges of sexuality? I am quite adventurous, non-judgmental and all too happy to serve you in this manner. Please take a moment to learn about my favorite kinky activities (and those I cannot perform) to see if we are a good match.

I enjoy many aspects from the submissive side of BDSM both personally and professionally, and pride myself in my eager service to novice and veteran alike. Some of my favorites include:

Humiliation: face slapping, hairpulling, verbal abuse, objectification
Sadomasochism: wartenburg wheels, floggers and wax—oh my!
Sensory play
Slave & Slut training
Fetish exploration: Feet/heels, cross-dressing, toys, food, male penetration
Menstrual play (this one requires a bit of advanced planning!)
Ass play , spanking and enema play
Tickle torture
Domestic discipline
Roleplaying: sexy librarian, naughty student, temple harlot, captive maiden, hostage and more


My Safeword and Limits

While I'd hate to interrupt a scene, I do occasionally need a breather. For such times, I employ the safeword RED to signal a pause. This safeword is for both of us to use and must be honored by both parties. Don't worry, in most cases it just means a readjustment or pause before we can continue.


For the health and safety of myself and all my dear friends, I must limit myself and abstain from certain activities. I do love to try new things, and so my list is short, but non-negotiable.

I do not offer uncovered services. Toys, for ease of cleaning, must also be covered.
I am not blindfolded.
I do not engage in golden showers, scat, blood or breath play.
I am not struck near any internal organs, or my eyes.
I am not kicked, trampled or choked.
I do not play with violet wands. (I much prefer wands made of flesh!)

Also, as a general consideration, I ask that you write to me in the manner befitting a gentleman and not go into graphic detail in your e-mails. There will be time enough for brazen talk in private.