It's funny, as I reach out to new experiences in sacred intimacy, in designing a new blog site and brainstorming a new business plan, I find a desire for newness: for a new name, new site, new ads & marketing. A new openness too--finding other communities besides RedBook.
I'm outgrowing this Electra Blue name--and after finding a spam mail sent through my e-mail, I am ready to ditch it in favor of a new address.
I don't know how much longer I will have this site, but you can be sure I will send links to the new blog when it begins to look presentable (Ugh, I know, I'm a perfectionist!)
Redbook hasn't been the best for business lately anyway. My service is taking on a greater depth that doesn't seem to be experienced much in RB. I want to share in this sacred sexual healing modality, but I don't see a demand for in it RB. Looking for greener pastures now...
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
What's Going On?
It's been too long since I updated! Much has been going on in my world, but my harlot's temple has been fairly quiet. I blame tax season. So just what have I been up to?
Well, I went to my first Gnostic Mass. Technically, my first Mass *ever.* There was a good group of people, a naked woman on the altar and a lot of ceremonial lines and costumes that I honestly thought was a little silly--but to each their own! To take communion with others in a way that supports my beliefs, that was worthwhile. "There is no part of me that is not of the Gods!"
I met up with Fantasy Makers and got to chat with some people about joining their house. While I've identified as submissive for several years, my work is empowering and making me very curious about exploring the Domme side of things. I've had to turn down several request to dominant others because I felt I had a lack of training--so how about getting some training already?
On the art side of things, I've joined up with a small group putting together a show and was asked to play the role of High Priestess/Babalon. This is both exciting and scary to me! The idea of having lines to reads scares me more than the public naked body painting that will be part of the show. I'm also getting a chance to put some art on display, so I've been brainstorming, sketching and collecting materials. The show will go on in July and I may invite a few people who are interested in seeing it.
Well, I went to my first Gnostic Mass. Technically, my first Mass *ever.* There was a good group of people, a naked woman on the altar and a lot of ceremonial lines and costumes that I honestly thought was a little silly--but to each their own! To take communion with others in a way that supports my beliefs, that was worthwhile. "There is no part of me that is not of the Gods!"
I met up with Fantasy Makers and got to chat with some people about joining their house. While I've identified as submissive for several years, my work is empowering and making me very curious about exploring the Domme side of things. I've had to turn down several request to dominant others because I felt I had a lack of training--so how about getting some training already?
On the art side of things, I've joined up with a small group putting together a show and was asked to play the role of High Priestess/Babalon. This is both exciting and scary to me! The idea of having lines to reads scares me more than the public naked body painting that will be part of the show. I'm also getting a chance to put some art on display, so I've been brainstorming, sketching and collecting materials. The show will go on in July and I may invite a few people who are interested in seeing it.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
A Quick Note
Today, my email password must have been compromised, for I noticed someone sent a spam link through it! I had to change my password, so hopefully the problem is now fixed. Apologies to anyone who received one! This seemed the best way to reach my audience.
And Dark Curses on the fool who chose to hack my account. Warts, boils and plagues be upon you!!
And Dark Curses on the fool who chose to hack my account. Warts, boils and plagues be upon you!!
Monday, February 28, 2011
Creating Sacredness
When I started on this path, I was drawn to the idea that it could be done in a sacred way--that, in ancient times, sex *was* a sacred thing. I loved the idea, but I wasn't sure how it would take form for me in the modern day.
Experience is the best teacher, so I went out and got some experience. Even the few shitty experiences I've had taught me invaluable lessons Some weeks, I have felt more sacred than others--when I take the time out to focus my intentions, it's so much better than the few times I've felt rushed, or just in that headspace.
I knew I needed to give myself time to learn, to test things. I needed to find out what worked best for me, and how to bring sacredness to my work without sounding or feeling like a airy new-age type. I needed to balance the sacred work with the fun of "being bad," and find a way to make them work together.
Babalon has given me this key. And now, finally, I feel ready to take this big step and truly devote my work to her--to make it Work. It gives me the courage to focus on sacred sexuality.
Expect big changes on this front! I'm taking steps to create my own website (bye bye Blogger) and re-do my marketing on this angle.
I'll always be that fun-loving, taboo-indulging girl. But now, I also want to pull out that healing, sacred spirit that banishes doubt and guilt.
Experience is the best teacher, so I went out and got some experience. Even the few shitty experiences I've had taught me invaluable lessons Some weeks, I have felt more sacred than others--when I take the time out to focus my intentions, it's so much better than the few times I've felt rushed, or just in that headspace.
I knew I needed to give myself time to learn, to test things. I needed to find out what worked best for me, and how to bring sacredness to my work without sounding or feeling like a airy new-age type. I needed to balance the sacred work with the fun of "being bad," and find a way to make them work together.
Babalon has given me this key. And now, finally, I feel ready to take this big step and truly devote my work to her--to make it Work. It gives me the courage to focus on sacred sexuality.
Expect big changes on this front! I'm taking steps to create my own website (bye bye Blogger) and re-do my marketing on this angle.
I'll always be that fun-loving, taboo-indulging girl. But now, I also want to pull out that healing, sacred spirit that banishes doubt and guilt.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Staying in the Red
At the start of the new year, I dyed my hair red. I've gone almost two months now and already the dreaded roots are showing. I've never noticed now dark my hair is, or appreciated just how fast my hair grows.
Does sucking cock for a dye job make me a whore?
Does sucking cock for a dye job make me a whore?
Monday, February 21, 2011
Sex Workers & Cheating
On one of my online discussion groups for poly people, they have been talking about infidelity in the poly community. If there is to be some openness, how much, and are you responsible for knowing what your partner does? What makes one a "cheater?"
To be honest, my opinions on conventional marriage are...less than conventional. I didn't care to comment on what I thought cheating was...until someone posted this question:
What about sex workers? If a guy sees an escort behind his wife's back, does that make the escort a cheater?
As you can imagine, I had something to say about this. My response follows (edited slightly for my blog.)
How is it that a sex worker is supposed to know if their client is cheating or not?
In my experience, the client wants to keep some distance. Many will give a fake name. I rarely need to know their full real name, the details of where they work, or their relationship status. Some are married and keep their rings on. Some tell me about their wives. Some will hide their ring in their car and I never know if they are married or not
In my opinion, they are paying for an experience that's outside their normal life. They pay for discretion. They pay for a little relief from whatever stress they have. Sometimes, they pay me to listen. They pay me to take them as they are, not to pry or judge them.
I view the provider/client relationship similarly to a therapist/client or even priest/confessor relationship. I'm not necessarily paid to, but I am empathetic to their situations. Some of them have broken relationships they have tried to fix, and visiting a pro is their best solution. Better to get the sexual relief in that way, then to start courting other women and forge a new relationship where they might get emotionally involved, causing even more trouble (albeit, their own fault!)
It's not a perfect system, but we do not live in a perfect world.
To be honest, my opinions on conventional marriage are...less than conventional. I didn't care to comment on what I thought cheating was...until someone posted this question:
What about sex workers? If a guy sees an escort behind his wife's back, does that make the escort a cheater?
As you can imagine, I had something to say about this. My response follows (edited slightly for my blog.)
How is it that a sex worker is supposed to know if their client is cheating or not?
In my experience, the client wants to keep some distance. Many will give a fake name. I rarely need to know their full real name, the details of where they work, or their relationship status. Some are married and keep their rings on. Some tell me about their wives. Some will hide their ring in their car and I never know if they are married or not
In my opinion, they are paying for an experience that's outside their normal life. They pay for discretion. They pay for a little relief from whatever stress they have. Sometimes, they pay me to listen. They pay me to take them as they are, not to pry or judge them.
I view the provider/client relationship similarly to a therapist/client or even priest/confessor relationship. I'm not necessarily paid to, but I am empathetic to their situations. Some of them have broken relationships they have tried to fix, and visiting a pro is their best solution. Better to get the sexual relief in that way, then to start courting other women and forge a new relationship where they might get emotionally involved, causing even more trouble (albeit, their own fault!)
It's not a perfect system, but we do not live in a perfect world.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Fallng in Love
I'm in love with this new woman. She's a Goddess, quite literally.
Babalon is not the chaste virgin huntress or heavily skirted mothering goddess, nor the sexless earth goddess that mainstream Paganism seems to cling to (no offense of course. I love earth goddesses too!) I can't blame them--they want acceptance in a vaguely Christian society and so had to become a coven of Glinda in a pink tutu.
This week I've been reading The Red Goddess. It's a devotional book of the sex goddess, Babalon. She's a Goddess of Whores, the modern holy harlot as envisioned by Alister Crowley. Crowley has a bad-boy reputation and is kinda misogynistic at times, but he's on to something with Babalon.
I've been working with her since discovering her, just over a month ago. The more I work with her, the more I've been able to invoke her presence mentally. And to be honest, I think it's working. The last few sessions I've had were extra steamy and my energy wouldn't stop until I was back home and grounded.
Let the sex(y) magick begin!
Babalon is not the chaste virgin huntress or heavily skirted mothering goddess, nor the sexless earth goddess that mainstream Paganism seems to cling to (no offense of course. I love earth goddesses too!) I can't blame them--they want acceptance in a vaguely Christian society and so had to become a coven of Glinda in a pink tutu.
This week I've been reading The Red Goddess. It's a devotional book of the sex goddess, Babalon. She's a Goddess of Whores, the modern holy harlot as envisioned by Alister Crowley. Crowley has a bad-boy reputation and is kinda misogynistic at times, but he's on to something with Babalon.
I've been working with her since discovering her, just over a month ago. The more I work with her, the more I've been able to invoke her presence mentally. And to be honest, I think it's working. The last few sessions I've had were extra steamy and my energy wouldn't stop until I was back home and grounded.
Let the sex(y) magick begin!
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