Creating Sacredness

When I started on this path, I was drawn to the idea that it could be done  in a sacred way--that, in ancient times, sex *was* a sacred thing.  I loved the idea, but I wasn't sure how it would take form for me in the modern day.

Experience is the best teacher, so I went out and got some experience. Even the few shitty experiences I've had taught me invaluable lessons Some weeks, I have felt more sacred than others--when I take the time out to focus my intentions, it's so much better than the few times I've felt rushed, or just in that headspace.

I knew I needed to give myself time to learn, to test things. I needed to find out what worked best for me, and how to bring sacredness to my work without sounding or feeling like a airy new-age type. I needed to balance the sacred work with the fun of "being bad," and find a way to make them work together.

Babalon has given me this key.  And now, finally, I feel ready to take this big step and truly devote my work to her--to make it Work. It gives me the courage to focus on sacred sexuality.

Expect big changes on this front! I'm taking steps to create my own website (bye bye Blogger) and re-do my marketing on this angle. 

I'll always be that fun-loving, taboo-indulging girl.  But now, I also want to pull out that healing, sacred spirit that banishes doubt and guilt.

Staying in the Red

At the start of the new year, I dyed my hair red. I've gone almost two months now and already the dreaded roots are showing.  I've never noticed now dark my hair is, or appreciated just how fast my hair grows.

Does sucking cock for a dye job make me a whore?

Sex Workers & Cheating

On one of my online discussion groups for poly people, they have been talking about infidelity in the poly community.  If there is to be some openness, how much, and are you responsible for  knowing what your partner does? What makes one a "cheater?"

To be honest, my opinions on conventional marriage are...less than conventional. I didn't care to comment on what I thought cheating was...until someone posted this question:

What about sex workers? If a guy sees an escort behind his wife's back, does that make the escort a cheater?

As you can imagine, I had something to say about this. My response follows (edited slightly for my blog.)

How is it that a sex worker is supposed to know if their client is cheating or not?

In my experience, the client wants to keep some distance.  Many will give a fake name. I rarely need to know their full real name, the details of where they work, or their relationship status. Some are married and keep their rings on. Some tell me about their wives.  Some will hide their ring in their car and I never know if they are married or not

In my opinion, they are paying for an experience that's outside their normal life. They pay for discretion. They pay for a little relief from whatever stress they have.  Sometimes, they pay me to listen. They pay me to take them as they are, not to pry or judge them.

I view the provider/client relationship similarly to a therapist/client or even priest/confessor relationship. I'm not necessarily paid to, but I am empathetic to their situations. Some of them have broken relationships they have tried to fix, and visiting a pro is their best solution.  Better to get the sexual relief in that way, then to start courting other women and forge a new relationship where they might get emotionally involved, causing even more trouble (albeit, their own fault!)

It's not a perfect system, but we do not live in a perfect world.

Fallng in Love

I'm in love with this new woman. She's a Goddess, quite literally.

Babalon is not the chaste virgin huntress or heavily skirted mothering goddess, nor the sexless earth goddess that mainstream Paganism seems to cling to (no offense of course. I love earth goddesses too!)  I can't blame them--they want acceptance in a vaguely Christian society and so had to become a coven of Glinda in a pink tutu.

This week I've been reading The Red Goddess. It's a devotional book of the sex goddess, Babalon. She's a Goddess of Whores, the modern holy harlot as envisioned by Alister Crowley.  Crowley has a bad-boy reputation and is kinda misogynistic at times, but he's on to something with Babalon.

I've been working with her since discovering her, just over a month ago. The more I work with her, the more I've been able to invoke her presence mentally.  And to be honest, I think it's working.  The last few sessions I've had were extra steamy and my energy wouldn't stop until I was back home and grounded.

Let the sex(y) magick begin!

Awesome Sex Toy Siting

A friend of mine linked this to me. I'm not a big toy collector, as I tend to find so much to enjoy in my partners--they become my toys!  But I have seen a few of these vibrators that hook up to your ipod and will vibrate with a musical beat. (I just had to add it to my wishlist!)

This one is a mini bullet vibe that will pick up the ambient sounds in a room and vibrate.  It will take those groovy dancing beats and send them all the way up into your core!  Wow, now there's a reason to dance.  Next time you are in a club, you can imagine the lovely ladies wearing one of these. They must be driving themselves wild!

Keep feelin' them good vibrations....


Also, in blog news, I put up a donate button for those who feel generous. The more attention this blog receives, the more reasons I have to keep writing. I am also looking into some sort of subscription option that would give subscribers access to special photo spreads each month or perhaps some personalized writings.  Any suggestions?