Sacred Whore vs Sacred Intimate

I have been reading up on the subject lately.  I'm observing a tendency of political correctness, or perhaps just an emphasis on the healing, spiritual and academic side of it. In more "serious work" about the topic of sacred harlotry (aka-not my blog), they call it sacred intimacy, erotic shamanism (my favorite of the group), erotic bodywork...they skirt around that sex may go on and money is exchanged. The healing, the touch is the important part.

But there's something I relish in the term sacred whore! Precisely because our culture (and many people) would say those two things don't go together.  It's the reason why I prefer the term witch instead of pagan.  They embrace the bad girl and embrace the healing of shadow work.

From a legal viewpoint, also, I see why they choose these phrases. I see why they choose to bring light into a shadowy world.  I have always sought balance, and want to acknowledge the shadows while bringing in the light.

A New Year Comes Blazing Through

New Year Eve was spent with a green, muddy junk worked into my hair. No parties for me this year, just a private celebration with champagne. After six hours, I wash it out. The henna color takes two days to settle, so I lay low, reading and researching.

And since then, it's just been one thing after another. In a good way, but when I looked, I saw I haven't written in my blog in too many days. This girl needs a spanking for that, but then I *still* wouldn't be writing!

The blog and my experience with escorting has very nearly reached the one year mark and I'm diving in just as deep for my second year.  I want to take what I've witnessed and learned and build my business even better.  This means I simply must write more, even if just to jot down some interesting bit that happened during the week.  I've also considered adding a twitter account, but I don't know if that will help me keep the blog more or less active.

My birthday is on the 29th, and my goal is to make these improvements by then. I may put together a small birthday wishlist on Amazon, but I think I will keep it low key. This birthday will be about self-improvement.

There's more to write about, but you readers deserve more posts, really.  So, I'll keep writing, and post a little every other day (or there will be spankings!)

Pre-Resolutions

The year isn't over yet, but I've already been trying to put some resolutions into effect.  One is a commitment to treat my body as a temple--to eat healthy foods, to pamper my body and continue to learn. I'm building the habit of keeping a food diary. (And in writing about it now, I hold myself accountable!)  I also want to honor my time, as I'm finding this job affords me new vast amounts of time and I want to use it constructively.

Have I mentioned lately how great this year has been, over all? It's had it's ups and downs, of course, but I've paid my bills and avoided trouble. I've learned a lot about business and men.  And I've begun tackling the taboo, this idea that whoring has to be degrading or that those who participate are victims (or become so.) I've found this experience empowering. Perhaps I've even done a little good.

I have some ideas in the works to take my site and marketing to the next level. With that will come a modest price boost that reflects the low-volume. Of course, the wonderful gentlemen I've seen this year are welcome to use the current rate.

There will be a few more weeks, and I'll make an official notice once some of my changes are put into place. Exciting times!

Long Red Hair

Oh man, I am in love.  I already had a crush on her since Firefly and, now that you mention it, I'm starting to go into Madmen withdrawal.  But then someone posted this beautiful Rapunzel vision of Christina Hendricks, and I haven't been able to get it out of my head since.

I have a thing for long hair. Pulled back, twisted up or flying free, I love it. In fact, in high school I grew my hair and got it down to my hips. Then the day came where I decided I needed a change and cut it all off. I've played with different lengths now but I believe it's time to go back.  Of course, it would take me a good three years to get long again.

I've also been considering going red. What do you think? No really, I want feedback from my readers! Send me a quick email at electrabluex@gmail.com and let me know if you'd like to see me with red hair.

Trust on the Internet

Oh, it's been a rather boring week. The holiday season is picking up for many, leaving little time to sneak away for a little date.  As such, I've had more time for making art, reading and too much time reading the RB forum.

There are little pockets of community within the RB forums. The power of the internet allows any person to anonymously state their most obnoxious thoughts, however, and most posting reflects that. Lately, the trend of topics have revealed the lack of trust between provider & client. Of course, there are real dangers lurking in the shadows of this industry. After nearly a year of occasional wanker calls, late night texts, and long fantasy emails with no intention of a visit, I am careful in how much trust I extend.

Unfortunately, it seems in some cases, the mistrust goes deep. Some men on the boards have some pretty low opinions of the women they hire. And they assume most of us have the same low opinion of them. With such feelings harbored on each side, how can a session even take place?

I think a good fuck can be healing. Human touch, soothing touch, is healing. For healing to take place, I feel some level of trust is necessary, or we may subconsciously reject it.

Now, of course we are here for the money. Otherwise we would just be sluts (in the most positive sense of the word.) But I'd hope no one would do sex work solely for money, because unless you can enjoy it, it's not worth it. Unless you enjoy nakedness, pleasing strangers and reveling in newfound social ostracization, I can't recommend it.

Lucky for me, and all of you, I do enjoy all those things! Okay, the ostracization, not so much.

Happy Thanksgiving!

 Wow, I looked at my blog the other day and it's been much too long! For most of last week, I was fighting a cold and thus, no work. I stayed bundled up in my quilt and read The Lost Girls in between cold medicine-fueled naps.

If you like graphic novels... no, even if you don't, you'll probably enjoy Lost Girls.  It reads more like an old-fashion erotic picture book, all naked bodies and beautiful watercolor orgy scenes. The story turns a few traditional fairy tales on their heads, giving them twisted sexual overlays. I love twisted fairy tales, and the erotic retelling of some of my favorites (Peter Pan, Alice in Wonderland, Wizard of Oz) was all I needed to super charge my dreams into mini sex movies.

Sufficed to say, I am even more eager for a bit of Thanksgiving "stuffing" before Thursday comes around!

Sexual Fantasies Help you Focus

The original link: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=how-fantasies-affect-focus
I may need to make a special trip to Barnes & Noble to get this issue of Scientific America.

"Fantasizing about sex gets more than just your juices flowing—it also boosts your analytical thinking skills. Daydreaming about love, on the other hand, makes you more creative, according to a study published in the November 2009 Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin."

Is this why musicians always sing songs about love?  Or maybe this is why noon is a popular time for appointments? I figured it would be easier to concentrate after a good orgasm, but perhaps the fucking also puts some guys in a better frame of mind for their jobs after lunch?